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This is THE Most Important Book You Could POSSIBLY Read Before Starting College

9/4/2016

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Novels are great! They stir the soul. They share emotional journeys we can all relate to. It's great to read novels – which is probably why Stanford provides a list of three books -- usually novels -- for its incoming freshmen to read each summer.

My freshman year, the Three Books were M Butterfly, Annie John, and Old School, which was actually pretty spectacular -- especially since I'd just graduated from a New England boarding school.

But let's be honest. Did any of these books change my life? Prepare me for college? Change the way I think? Improve my cognitive skills?

No. But this one will:
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Because, yes. Stories are nice. However, I’m skeptical about how well they can equip you to thrive in the world around you. Especially considering that Jane Austen is hardly relevant to today’s social and scientific issues.
 
In a world that's as contentious and divided over many issues, concerns about academic discourse and censorship on campus have become widespread. It is increasingly clear to me that the best possible book a freshman can read right now is The Righteous Mind: Why Good People are Divided by Politics and Religion, by moral psychologist and New York University Stern School of Business Professor Jonathan Haidt.
 
Here’s why:

1. The amount you will be able to learn in college is directly limited by your ability to converse with and learn from others.
 
In college, you will be challenged more than you ever have before. Part of that challenge involves sharing perspectives with a diverse body of students whose values and experiences are different from yours.
 
It’s easy to think that you are right, and others are ignorant and wrong. But… if you think that, you’re probably wrong. (Hint: the more you think in absolutes, the less likely it is that you are a good thinker.) 
 
The Righteous Mind will help you understand how good people can disagree so strongly on moral issues. It will teach you how to understand and respect people who have different opinions from you, and how to objectively identify flaws and merits in their arguments.

2. It will teach you how to be persuasive.
 
You think you’re persuasive because you know a lot of facts? You think you will win an argument because you have more or better data?
 
You’re wrong.

And don't even get me started on the meaningless jargon kids are so fond of these days. NOT. CONVINCING.
 
See, a huge part of being able to convince others of the merits of your argument… is knowing how to talk to people who disagree with you.
 
Jonathan Haidt devotes a significant portion of his book to discussing just this. For example, there are three ways to get people to think in an exploratory, rather than confirmatory, fashion. Haidt will teach you how to activate them.
 
For another example, people with different political (and even biological) backgrounds differ on six moral dimensions. 
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Understanding the biological and cultural origins of these moralities will allow you to make your point in the most friendly, convincing manner.
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3. It will teach you how to think.

 
All humans -- even Nobel Prize winning scientists -- are prone to certain cognitive biases. Among these, the confirmation bias, or our tendency to seek out information that confirms our hypothesis, but not information that contradicts it.

Haidt gives the example of a study in which participants are presented with a list of numbers -- say, 2, 4, 6. They are informed that the numbers follow a rule. The participant's goal is to develop a hypothesis for what that rule is, and then test it by proposing another series of numbers. 

Here's how that typically plays out. 

Experimenter: 2, 4, 6.
Participant: Okay, I think the rule is even numbers that rise by two. So, 4, 6, 8?
Experimenter: Yes.
Participant: 100, 102, 104?
Experimenter: Yes. 
Participant: So the rule is even numbers that rise by two?
Experimenter: No.
Participant: Hm. So maybe it's... any series of numbers that rises by two. So... 3, 5, 7.
Experimenter: Yes. 
Participant: So any series that rises by two?
Experimenter: No.

The answer here was any series of numbers that goes in ascending order. Odds and evens don't matter. Increments don't matter. 

The fastest way to test your hypothesis is typically to look for evidence that disproves, rather than confirms, it. For example:

P: Okay, I think the rule is even numbers that rise by two. So, 3, 5, 7?
E: Yes.
P: Hm, so I guess it doesn't have to be even numbers. Maybe it's series that rise by two. So, 3, 4, 5?
E: Yes.
P: That means it doesn't have to rise by two. 

See how much faster participants could have solved the problem if they weren't so prone to the confirmation bias?

Haidt also discusses our tendency to ask, “Can I believe it?” when presented with information we like or want to agree with, but, “Must I believe it?” when we learn information we don’t like. This can have a serious impact on your learning, as well as moral and social judgements. (See also: The REAL Reason We Think Women Are "Crazier" Than Men In Relationships.)
 
Understanding these and other biases will not only make you a better, more open-minded thinker… but it will also help you identify problems in your peers’, professors’ and textbooks’ arguments. It will help you see the world in a clearer, more scientific way.

4. It will teach you how science actually works.
 
College science (including social science) is not high school science. The focus is less on content and memorization, and more on skepticism, criticism and process. Yet even in class, you might find yourself learning more about the final study design and results... than what sparked the idea, what the original design was, and how the authors' politics or beliefs played into the experiment. 

Jonathan Haidt is a seriously thoughtful, innovative and creative social scientist, and he could be an inspiration and role model for pretty much anyone. He will show you how to ask questions, build teams, and test hypotheses. 

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For those reasons (and many others!), I highly recommend The Righteous Mind to every single incoming freshman ever. I actually think it should be required reading for every incoming freshman. Like, what do I remember about M Butterfly or Annie John? Hardly anything.

But reading The Righteous Mind transformed my mind for the better. 

If you are a student looking for a book that will prepare you for college, this is it. If you are a parent, family member or friend looking for a graduation present or welcome-to-college present for a loved on, this is it. 

And if you are already in college, already graduated from college, active in politics, interested in social change, or simply want to have a friendlier family discussion over Thanksgiving dinner... it's never too late to learn.
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7 Comments
Zeph
3/5/2017 07:03:12 pm

I wanted to thank you for this recommendation!

I have found your blog quite interesting and stimulating (despite having left a few messages questioning aspects of your points). So I took your reco to heart and ordered this book. *I* haven't yet read it, but my partner got a chance to begin reading before I did (still at it, reading a little from time to time), and has been telling me all sorts of interesting things from it - and saying that I will love the book when I get my turn. So I'm sure I will.

Already this sounds like a remarkable and important book; can't wait to begin reading it myself.

Thanks again!

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Zeph
3/28/2017 09:27:49 am

Wow. My partner finished the book and I just started reading it last night. I've read the first two chapters, and have decided to go back and use a highlighter and make notes, before going forward. It's cool that I can now discuss it (in more detail) with my partner as I read.

Thank you again for this recommendation, Eva. This is a very important book, and it has a lot to digest/integrate.

I find parts of the book tend to confirm some of my/our long-evolving philosophy (of life, politics, evolution...) and parts challenge it; an exciting mixture. There are some discouraging themes already tho.

One discouraging aspect is that it (so far) tends to reinforce a concern I've had in recent years, that perhaps the model of how a society could and should work which we (my partner and I) have been exploring / developing over the years are designed for people like us - a mixture of caring and rational, empathy and intellect. Not that we are anywhere near perfect, but our approach may be very atypical and more importantly - not a realistic possibility for many/most people.

A society is somewhat like a building, and the architecture of a building depends on the available materials; mud bricks, clay adobe, baked clay bricks, stone, reinforced concrete each have their implications, and a structure designed for fitted stones may collapse if instead made of mud bricks. Every political philosophy tends to be based on assumptions of "typical" human nature - the kind of bricks. Perhaps our implicit assumptions - of the possibility of a society where people are by and large raised to be thoughtful, intelligent, caring/empathetic, and self-reflective - are counter to reality. But I'm certainly not ready to go to some opposite extreme! Finding a new philosophical balance will take some time and a lot of thought.

Are you up for some form of discussion of the book? Emails, exchanged notes, phone calls - not sure of the form, this is just a tentative feeler. We live in North Bay (between Petaluma and Santa Rosa) so eventually meeting in person isn't even out of the question - tho we tend to be busy and I can see you are too.

Anyway, thanks again.

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Eva Glasrud link
5/21/2018 12:20:47 pm

That would be fun -- I always WANT to discuss this book, but usually end up explaining it, since most of the people I've brought it up with haven't read it.

That said, it's been a little while since I read the book, so I should probably do a re-read (or at least a review) prior to discussion. Could you send an email to thehappytalent@gmail.com to discuss further?

Looking forward :)

Eva

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Zeph
3/28/2017 03:51:40 pm

I just came across Jonathan Haidt discussing run-away political correctness: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OI0lG4PEMkw

Very scary. Do you see this in your classroom?

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Zeph
5/19/2018 11:57:38 am

Hmm, seems like I'm the only one commenting here.

Anyway, I have finally found the time to begin reading the book myself (one benefit of being mostly retired of late; thanks DJT&Zinke), and it's fascinating already.

Thanks again for the recommendation. I find many interesting things on the (alas rare) occasions I drop in here. There is more that I agree with than disagree, but I learn from both. Gotta run now tho.

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Zeph
5/19/2018 12:02:39 pm

(er - finding time not to continue reading the book I should have said).

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Eva Glasrud link
5/21/2018 12:17:53 pm

Ugh -- sorry! I do try to reply to the comments I get on my blog, but for a while due to a weird settings thing, I stopped getting notifications about comments...

I'm always glad to hear your comments, whether you agree or disagree. They make me think, and that's a good thing :)

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