I'm optimistic to a fault, and (as I'm always saying) every holiday is my favorite holiday. (Even President's Day.) Except one. You know what holiday I actually kind of hate?
New Year's Eve.
It's a stupid holiday! I know I always say that everything is what you make it, and that boring people lead boring lives. I try to make the best of it. But NYE is almost ALWAYS a disappointment. (With all the build-up and high expectations, though, how could it be anything but a disappointment? After all: the key to disappointment is high expectations.)
Music so loud you have to SCREAM AT, rather than talk to, each other. Alcohol-focused parties and events. And the infamously laughable "New Year's Resolution."
SMART goal setting is something that is not, but should be, explicitly taught in schools. Basically, the concept is that a wise goal is:
The problem with most New Year's resolutions is that they aren't necessarily Specific, and are hardly ever Time-bound. Which is why so many people fail. Which is why we have memes like these:
You get the idea.
This is exactly why I celebrate New Month's, rather than New Year's, Eve.
First of all, because it happens twelve times per year, instead of once, there's no pressure. No expectations. No way you can possibly be disappointed.
Second, psychology research shows that humans thrive when they have something (even something small) to look forward to. Which is kind of how the placebo effect works. Make it a group effort -- tell some of your closest friends (or fellow "regulars") about New Month's Eve, and put it on your calendars. Every 30th/31st/28th/29th, get together for karaoke. Board games. Or even a New Month's Eve book club! (More on that later.)
Third, if you actually want to set goals for yourself, you're much more likely to achieve them if you hold yourself accountable on a monthly, rather than yearly, basis. If you celebrate New Month's Eve, your goals will be time-bound. You have thirty-ish days to accomplish something specific, even if it's a "by when?" rather than a "what."
If you make the effort social, as previously suggested, you are taking a step towards holding yourself accountable. When you gather with your friends to celebrate New Month's Eve, go ahead and discuss your resolutions.
Was your goal to go to the gym once per week? It's been four weeks -- have you been to the gym four times?
Did you want to shave thirty seconds off your 5k time? It's been a month -- did you?
You wanted to eliminate words like "just," "I think," and "sorry" from your emails -- did you?
Or did you have a different New Month's Resolution? Perhaps you and your friends decided that it would be good to learn something new each month. Perhaps through great non-fiction. Perhaps through self-improvement. Either way, your NME party would be a great time to discuss! If I were going to recommend twelve amazing books to educate, self-improve and inspire, they would include the following:
Honorable mentions include Wreck This Journal, by Keri Smith (which was personally recommended to me by the author of The Truth Beyond the Sky); Smart People Should Build Things: How to Restore Our Culture of Achievement, Build a Path for Entrepreneurs and Create New Jobs in America, by Andrew Yang (no matter what their age, every person I've ever recommended this book to later told me, "I wish I'd read it ten years ago!"); and A Short History of Nearly Everything, by Bill Bryson (it never hurts to understand more about the world around you -- and no one explains science better than Bill Bryson).
Whether you're planning on celebrating each new month of 2016 to hold yourself accountable for resolutions, or you just think it would be a fun little way to celebrate with friends each month, I am certain that, at this time next year, you will look back on your 12 NME celebrations with a pretty huge smile.
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