83% of women would reject men with violence and aggression in their bio and 78% would reject bios with bigotry -- which are the exact reasons why I would reject any man with pronouns in his bio.
A behavioral and cognitive science graduate student recently published the results of his dating app deal-breakers survey. Overall, the results were not too surprising.
Women don't want to date violent men. They don't want to date racist and sexist men. They don't want to date men who smoke, are vegan, are dirty, are kinky, and who are non-monogamous.
28% of women also reported that they would reject any man who had pronouns in his bio.
Which makes absolute sense to me. I wouldn't date someone with pronouns in his bio, because there are only four reasons a man would do such a thing:
1. He is brainless.
He is brainlessly, mindlessly following a misogynistic, anti-science, homophobic cultural trend without giving any critical thought to it.
I am not interested in dating a man who is brainless.
2. He is spineless.
He knows that listing his "preferred pronouns" indicates that he is a misogynistic, anti-science, homophobic creep, but he doesn't care, because he would rather go along with the trans ideology movement than take a stand for women's sex-based rights, the LG community's right to be recognized as same-sex attracted (telling lesbians and gays they need to "unlearn their genital preferences" and accept opposite-sex people into their dating people is conversion therapy 2.0)...
Or even plainly observable reality. Men cannot be women, because "woman" is not a feeling men can have or a costume men can buy. Woman is a biological reality for adult, human females. Putting on womanface doesn't make men the "exact same" as an actual woman.
3. He is a misogynist who does not believe in women's right to bodily autonomy or care about consent.
He might not be brainless or spineless. He might ACTUALLY worship at the altar of trans ideology. He might have actually critically thought about trans ideology and decided that male feelings and fetishes matter more than women's rights, safety, and dignity.
Here's the thing. If you are a man who does not think I have a right to decide which males I undress in front of, you are a violent, aggressive misogynist without a basic understanding of consent.
When women say no, it means no.
It does NOT mean, "Try harder to force, guilt, and manipulate women into giving men access to their bodies while they are showering, undressing, using the bathroom, or inserting menstrual products into their vaginas."
Men who don't think women have a right to female-only spaces are not men I think it is safe for me to be around, because this belief shows a sociopathic disregard for women's privacy, dignity, and literal safety, and I do not want to knowingly put myself in a "situation" with this sort of misogynist.
Men who think that my job, as a woman, is to be a human shield to protect males against male violence (a ridiculous notion, might I add, considering that it is actually very rare for trans-identifying males to experience violence, and almost all of the violence against them happens either during sex work, or in South and Central American countries with a strong machismo culture -- and while, of course, violence against sex workers is abhorrent, it is ridiculous to compare violence that happens to males during sex work to the violence that women and girls experience in their everyday lives, just for being female), are men who see me as a second-class citizen relative to men.
Men who think that my safety is acceptable collateral damage in the quest to affirm male feelings are not men I would ever feel safe or comfortable being alone with.
Do these men not know that trans-identifying males are 5x more likely than normal men, and 566x more likely than women, to be convicted sex offenders... or do they just not care?
Do these men really not care about girls' and women's right to fair and meaningful competition in sports, even though 15 peer review studies in high-impact journals all show that the male advantage over women in sports never goes away, even after three years on hormone therapy?
Do they really hate women that much?
That is a deal-breaker for me.
4. She is actually a woman.
The only other reason a "man" would put pronouns in his bio... is that he's actually a woman.
As a heterosexual woman, I do not date other women.
It is completely bonkers to call people "transphobic" for their sexual orientation.
The big "gotcha" male supremacists like to throw out there is, "If you were attracted to the person and you only stopped liking them after you found out they were trans, that makes you transphobic."
It is not transphobic to not want to date a trans person.
I don't hate smokers, but I wouldn't want to date one.
I don't hate vegans, but I wouldn't want to date one.
I don't hate trans people, but I wouldn't want to date one.
I don't owe anyone an explanation as to why. But I will volunteer one.
I am not sexually attracted to other women.
I am not willing to start a relationship with someone I already know I can't have kids with.
And I am not interested in men or women who worship at the altar of gender ideology, because that is not my religion. A relationship would not work out between me and someone who believes that wrong-gendered spirits can get trapped in wrong-meated bodies, and can only be freed through genital and chemical mutilation of a healthy body.
I will not pretend to worship a religion I don't believe in, and I'm not particularly interested in dating someone who would.
I will not date someone who doesn't understand or willingly denies science.
I will not date someone who thinks woman is a feeling, and not a biological reality.
And I will not date a misogynist who thinks women are second-class citizens who don't deserve sex-based rights.
Hence, pronouns in bio would be a major deal-breaker for me.
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